As Rhonda Hess writes in her blog post about setting boundaries, coaching and caretaking are one in the same for a lot of business coaches. The accountability factor and the boundary delineation become blurry and the blame factor becomes all too easy to revert to when it comes to less actionable impact and more failed clients.
If we're working with clients, we all struggle with this boundary setting and line in the sand moment when we just want to be free from the chains and be able to work with respect and dignity so that you can relate to people on a level that doesn't make you feel lesser than them because they're hiring you to do something they either can't, or won't or don't have the time to accomplish, or better yet, don't have the knowledge you do to create results like you do.
"Before you get caught in another good lesson, set up your business with strong boundaries. They create a friendly and ethical structure that allows others to find their place with you. Good boundaries speak volumes about your professionalism and keep both you and your clients on track."
In my first few years as a coach I was a care-taker with my clients. It was in my nature and I thought it was the kind way to coach. I thought it was better to serve the client no matter what the cost to me.
I continually made concessions that jeopardized my success:
- Offering a second or extra long sample session
- Reducing fees because I sensed my prospect was struggling financially (even though I was too).
- Set session times when I didn't want to work
- Leaping at any opportunity before looking at the possible return on investment of time.
These situations always ended up being lessons learned, sometimes painful ones.
And then one day I committed to stop all of that and I set strong business boundaries. A remarkable thing happened:
1. Suddenly, my coaching was in high demand.
2. Clients stayed longer and made greater progress.
3. My income significantly increased.
4. I had time to create products and design new programs.
It was as if I freed myself to be more professional in my business and that, in turn, raised the perception of my value and the way my clients invested in themselves. It was empowering!
Before you get caught in another good lesson, set up your business with strong boundaries. They create a friendly and ethical structure that allows others to find their place with you. Good boundaries speak volumes about your professionalism and keep both you and your clients on track.
Here are the Five Sacred Coaching Boundaries:
1. Want only as much for your clients as they want for themselves.
If you find yourself feeling frustrated about your client's results, you may be wanting more for them than they want for themselves. In effect, you may be energetically taking on their success as your job.
Challenge your clients to do what they say they will in alignment with their goals and let go of the outcome. If you can't let go of the outcome, you may need to let go of the client.
If you find yourself emotionally affected by your client's lack of progress, consider setting criteria for your prospective clients. In my own business as a mentor coach, to avoid getting started with someone who isn't ready to make significant progress, I pre-qualify possible clients by asking:
"Are you committed to creating your own success and ready to invest your resources (time, energy and money) to make this happen now?"
I may even go further to inquire about how much time they can dedicate and how many months of coaching they can budget.
I've found this puts clients on notice that positive results on their coaching goals is largely up to them. It also raises the perceived value of my coaching services because they see that I don't take on just anyone.
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Nicole Jolie is the founder of SkinByRadiance a trademarked anti aging skin care for athletes and Women who love to workout. She also started a 100% recycled plastic bag company that made all of their totes and bags out of recycled plastic bottles. In addition, she has helped many different types of companies and personal brands with their online presence using social media marketing and helping them with their websites. Nicole believes small business owners deserve an opportunity to create abundance, wealth and prosperity because most of them didn't start their business to work for someone else. "I truly believe I can make a difference in people's businesses by helping them with their online presence."